How to cure an addiction to Selfies
I know what you’re thinking and yes, it’s true. The American Psychiatric Association has now officially added ‘Taking Selfies’ to their list of mental disorders.
This often painful and ultimately debilitating first world problem is now in the same leagues as Schizophrenia, Bi-Polar Disorder, and Autism.
It actually makes sense when you think about it!
So how do you cure this condition? According to this article, the APA is still yet to come up with a cure, despite the fact that it’s sitting right in front of them.
The answer is in the definition of the condition. Selfitis is defined as:
…the obsessive compulsive desire to take photos of one’s self and post them on social media as a way to make up for the lack of self-esteem and to fill a gap in intimacy.
How could you cure that?
The 3rd Princple of Vedanism makes it very clear.
The issue you face in any area of your life is not how you currently experience or what you want to experience, but how you try and bridge the gap.
Lets apply that definition to Selfitis.
What is the current experience of a typical Selfitis sufferer? They have a lack of self-esteem (which usually manifests itself as feeling powerless or worthless) and a lack of intimacy (which usually manifests itself as a lack of connection)
What is the desired experience of a Selfitis sufferer? The desired experience is always the opposite of the current experience – they want to feel powerful, worthy, and / or connected.
How are they trying to bridge the gap? They’re taking photo’s of themselves and posting them on social media.
Does that sound like an empowered solution to you? No, me neither.
So what is the solution? Change the pathway from Dependence to Independence.
Instead of trying to get your experience of connection, power, and self-worth from how many people like your photos, find a different way that puts you in control.
Find your experience of personal power by pushing through your fears and challenging yourself.
Find your experience of self-worth by helping those who have less than you.
Find your experience of intimacy by forming deep, real, and powerful connections with people.
The solution is not to stop taking selfies and posting them online because that still leaves your desires unfulfilled. It’s to fill those desires in other ways so you no longer need anything from selfies and their importance diminishes.
- Next s