The true cause of suffering

Let’s not beat around the bush here: life can suck sometimes. 

The best laid plans can go awry and the best of intentions can get derailed by some unforeseen circumstances. And when it does, it hurts.

And it can hurt a lot. The pain, the suffering, the anguish can twist and turn inside your soul and linger far longer than you’d wish on even your worst enemies.

So where does this come from? And how do you make it go away?

Both good questions. Lets start at the start:

According to the Buddha, the cause of suffering is craving and desire.

By desire, Buddhists refer to craving pleasure, material goods, and immortality, all of which are wants that can never be satisfied. As a result, desiring them can only bring suffering.  

But is this really the case?

If it was, then every time you desired or craved something, you would suffer. Every time you were hungry and desired food, you would suffer. Every time you were tired and you desred sleep, you would suffer. Every time you felt alone and wanted to connect with someone, you would suffer.

But you don’t.

If you desired food and had a hamburger in your hand, then you’re not going to suffer. If you desired sleep and you were sitting on your bed, then you’re not going to suffer. If you craved connection and you were sitting in your lounge room with a close friend then you’re not going to suffer.

The cause of suffering is not desire or craving, but unfulfilled desire of craving. Think about it like this:

Is desiring connection going to cause you to suffer?

Not always… If you desire connection and you’re able to find that connection by finding emotional commonalities with the thousands of people you pass in the street every day, then you’re desiring connection isn’t going to cause you to suffer.

The only time that this desire is going to cause suffering is when you have an ineffective Script for experiencing connection.

Is desiring the experience of power going to cause you to suffer?

Not always…  If you’re able to find your sense of power in challenging your personal limitations and barriers then you’re never going to be stuck for a way to experience a sense of power in your life.

The only time that this desire is going to cause suffering is when you have an ineffective Script for experiencing power.

Is desiring freedom going to cause you to suffer?

Not always… If you’re able to find your sense of personal freedom through taking the action you want to take rather than waiting for permission, then you’re always going to be able to experience the freedom you desire.

The only time that this desire is going to cause suffering is when you have an ineffective Script for experiencing freedom.

 

Desire or craving are not the cause of suffering.

Desire and craving will only cause you suffering when those desires and cravings go unfulfilled.

The real cause of suffering is an ineffective Script.

If you have an ineffective Script for experiencing power, one that relies too heavily on elements that are out of control, then you will suffer when you don’t get the power you want.

If you have an ineffective Script for experiencing connection, one that relies too heavily on elements that are out of your control, then you will suffer when you don’t get the connection you want.

If you change to an effective Script, one that is reliant on elements that are under your control, then the only time you’ll suffer is when you choose to.

 

NOTE: For all the people who just like to prove how right they are, this post is obviously just written about emotional pain and suffering, not physical pain and suffering.

 


4 Replies to "The true cause of suffering"

  • Sebastian
    September 23, 2014 (12:12 am)
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    Hey mate I have a question about this script thing that I think will be very useful for all your readers:
    I found very useful the independent script to experience power you teach in my work time. But this is not good for me in the other areas of my life. For example I found most useful the connection script around people and the freedom script around things that scare me. This worked very well to me at the beginning but now I found very annoying the constant thinking about what script I must follow in every situation. I want to be free of all this stuff. I want to let go of the theory instead of being constantly thinking about what inner mechanism I must apply in every situation to enjoy the present moment.
    Am I doing something wrong? Every person have issues related with freedom, power and connection at the same time? Or there is just one core issue that I cannot see?

  • Chris
    November 16, 2014 (3:22 pm)
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    I think the true cause of suffering, is yourself. The whole of who you are is creating that suffering. Think about it, if you had no mind, you would not be able to perceive anything as bad thus you would not suffer. If you can create that suffering, you can also eliminate it, but how? Well by realizing that there is no spoon (matrix), there is no problem, other than the problem/suffering you create, if you truly understand that, there wont be suffering, it will be hard to do at first, you will think its not working but that just the emotion of resistance, and you will perceive that emotion of resistance as you suffering still, don’t be mistaken, that’s you actually improving, overcoming that suffering, just keep at it. Nothing is good or bad till thinking makes it so. You have the power to change anything about yourself, if you have the power to create suffering for yourself, you also have the power to create happiness for yourself, consciously choose to create happiness. Consciously choose to see the bright side of life, trust me things are much better when things are looking bright. If you change the way you perceive things, the things you perceive change.

  • scot
    March 11, 2015 (1:07 am)
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    I think thinking although needed and mandatory for operating can be the cause of suffering, at least it is for me personally.Through meditation I am developing the ability to think less and it feels good.

  • Eric
    September 26, 2015 (5:51 pm)
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    “When my plans crumble and God takes me away from my dreams, I must trust in God’s infinite wisdom. When my cup of suffering seems too much to bear, I need to rest in his immeasurable love. When my life spins out of control, I need to remember God’s absolute sovereignty.” Vaneetha Rendall


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